Family, Friends, Safety
Best not to force this as kids can work this out remarkably well without
parents around. Until a child is done with a toy, you should not take it away
as this is the same feeling as another child taking the toy away. Giving it to
the other child can lead to feelings of entitlement instead of delayed
gratification that is a better skill for him or her to learn at the baby or
a Jewish child
Let your child see you kissing the mezuzah and practicing mitzvot and they
will endear him in kind.
Let your child open and close the ark and touch the Torahs and he will
learn the Torah.
22.2.3 Hanukah – Education –
In Judaism not living under tyranny, education, and freedom are
22.2.4 Passover – Idolatry – not
That we do not worship kings that we do not see the king as the Son of God,
that we do not accept the slavery of kings.
Jan. 2012: “Can you smile Dada.” My son pointed to the corner
of my lips and tried to lift them
“Can you bring the spooky boxes?” I did not know what he meant and
then he said synagogue. So I now I remembered I laid tefillin yesterday, my
son’s reminder to do this again this morning. I asked my son if he could
say the Shema. He responded, “Smile”. To say the Shema is to
smile in the morning and evening.
Hear Lord our
G-d, “the Lord is One”
This is the universal proclamation for all mankind that there is one
G-d. We ask G-d to hear us, hear our cry, hear our voice, hear our
There is a Midrash that before we are born, we have all the spiritual
knowledge of our past lives and full comprehension about what we need to
accomplish in this lifetime. Nevertheless, at the moment of birth an angel
touches us just below the nose and we forget all that we knew. We spend the
rest of our lives trying to find what we lost. And it is extremely important to
find what we have lost in this instance. There are many clues to discover
one’s role in life. A lot can be learned from our family. A soul will
choose a family in order to improve itself in areas of weakness. While in this
family there may be more conflicts, correction leads to greater personal growth.
One may also learn about oneself from one’s name. Who we are named after
affects our role in life. The day we are born will also have an effect.
Worf to Nicholai as he takes the Chronicle of Nicholai’s
I will take this to our parents. -They will not understand. They
might; I will tell them you are
the most important matters to parents is that their children are happy. Even
G-d in the next life will ask us, “Did you enjoy my world?”
There is good and bad in each of the Jewish
the Reform movement, there is pressure on the Vatican to release the archives of
WWII Pope Plus XII who allied with Hitler mach shemo. Because of the
Conservative and Reform movements, pressure was exerted on Truman to approve the
State of Israel. While the Orthodox movement has kept us from adopting harmful
modern ways, they have kept to themselves mostly. Leftists were the first to
pick up the rifle to fight for
friends close and your enemies closer” – Godfather’s
“Merits of the family” literally.
The immediate family influences the child’s values and stability.
Nevertheless, the superstitions of Yichus for discrimination is always a
concern. Remember Zipporah and Ruth who were derided in their generation, but
magnified the greatness of their husbands and children.Image of
The Ribono shel Olam cares more for the well-being of marriages than
for worship and recognition. This was the point of the test of adultery where
Hashem permits His name to be wiped out for the sake of the marriage. Why is
this the case? Why is our relationship to Hashem of less significance then to
Thus, to live in the “Image of G-d” is not to expect
recognition from others. Hence, a good atheist may rate as high in the eyes of
Hashem as a believer. The key is how benevolent we act towards others. For
the sake of kindness for others, Hashem foregoes recognition. The way we treat
our spouse falls in this category.
Now how will it be possible after
death to feel closeness to Hashem if while we lived we did not achieve this?
Those that live in the “Image of G-d” will be as a loving friend of
Hashem in the world to come. The relationship of a friend is different from
that of servant. Both are worthy goals.Rediscovered
In a convention in Poland, a hidden Jewish woman discovered that
her brother was alive, 50 years after the holocaust. During the war, she was
left alone at the age of 14. She told the authorities that she was Polish and
an orphan. Since she didn’t look Jewish and volunteered to work in a
factory in Germany, she slipped by without notice. The factory in Germany was
forced labor, not like a concentration camp. There she met someone and got
married after the war in Poland. When he was very sick, she finally told him
that she was Jewish. She also had two daughters. When the oldest daughter
found out she was very disheartened as she held negative Jewish opinions. The
other daughter was ok with the news.
There was a convention in Poland
for survivors of the war. At the convention someone told her that there was a
survivor from her hometown there. This person was a friend of my aunt in
Germany who told us about the story. She had a brother who had survived the war
in Russia and went to England after the war. Fifty years later she traveled to
England and had a reunion with a brother. Her brother’s son was a lawyer
in New York. He paid her to take a trip to New York where she met my uncle as
well. When her daughter got married in Poland her nephew traveled to the
wedding in Poland. The daughter getting married was shocked to find out she was
Jewish but had adjusted by the time of her wedding. The other daughter was ok
to find out she was Jewish. Mr Ripple Saves the Spiegel
When my father’s family was seeking a place to hide
during the last year of the 2nd
world war, my Grandfather contacted a
friend of his by the name of Mr. Ripple. Mr. Ripple had earlier enabled my
grandfather to get work papers to go in and out of the ghetto to collect down
and feathers used by the German army for pillows and clothing. Mr. Ripple told
my Grandfather that he could not hide the entire family and then said, but how
can I send you away since I will never see you again. My Grandfather replied to
put his mind at ease, “I am only seeking a place for my wife and daughter,
my sons and I have already found another place to hide.” This satisfied
Mr. Ripple and my grandmother and daughter took residency in the loft of the
stable attached to the house. Mr. Ripple provided food for them that they
would lift up by rope. What Mr. Ripple didn’t know is that my
grandfather, uncle and father had snuck up to hide in the loft as well. For the
last six months he was not aware of this. My grandfather continued to use his
work papers to conduct business during the war to acquire food to feed the rest
of the family. He went through a serious bout of typhus which the hay carried
but survived the delirium. One day Grandfather heard others talking about the
Spiegel family, that they were hiding in the area, and he felt that the talk
could lead to some danger. He told a friend’s wife to spread rumors this
Sunday at church that the Spiegel family had been caught hiding in some pipes
near a construction site. When Mr. Ripple and his wife went to church and heard
the rumors, they came home and told my Grandmother the tragic news that the rest
of the Spiegel family had been captured. My grandmother responded,
“don’t you worry, Mr Ripple, my husband and sons are in a hiding
place just as good as this one, and to prove it next week my husband will be
here to meet you.”
This was how my family survived the last six
months of the war. Mr. Ripple was the German magistrate of this region and a
good man. There is no Hebrew word for "supernatural" and there is a good reason
for this. Instead the Hebrew word for miracle is ‘nes’. Since my
father’s family are holocaust survivors, my grandmother, may she rest in
peace would tell me the miracles of how the family survived. There are miracles
in this world and they have nothing to do with “the supernatural”.
To be a Jew is to be part of an unbroken chain of survivors of persecution.
There is no greater miracle than after the thousands of years of persecution;
the Jewish people survive and have a vibrant tradition and inner beauty. On Yom
Kipper during the Musaf service, we read about the Ten Martyrs who died for
their faith in G-d and unwillingness to keep then the prohibition on teaching
Torah. Because of folks like these and the other millions of martyrs in our
history we are Jews today. Some Christians would paint us into a corner for
denying the deification of a single martyr, but we say in the words of the
Aleinu prayer, Isaiah 45:20 “For they bow to vanity and emptiness and pray
to a god which does not save” since we are here, while the Byzantine
Christians who would have destroyed us are not.
Stroke has almost no remedy in hospitals while unnecessary treatments such
as breathing tubes will ruin the ability to swallow. Hence one must be very
cautious on emergency recommended care. Hospice doctors and nurse practitioners
have a vested interest in preserving life and may actually be better at blood
pressure treatment and other geriatric care then general physicians.
A fetal monitor will show that when a wife criticizes her husband the pulse
rate of the baby and the mother calms down together. Hence a husband ought not
to think that a negative wife is unhappy! When a wife withholds criticism her
pulse rate increases. Hence as every husband desires to make his wife happy, he
should not become upset when his wife complains, but realize that she achieves
some shalom – peace in this manner.
22.4.1 Pregnancy and delivery
Note hospitals do not allow any patients to drink any fluid. Hence a long
labor in a hospital is bound to lead to dehydration followed by an IV and
surgical delivery. Babies born with a heavily sedated mother are more likely to
require immediate feeding to avoid dehydration, which could lead to an intensive
care stay. Nevertheless, hospitals don’t feed newborn babies except
through an IV.
Home birth is an alternative, but one should prepare with
an ultra-sound to evaluate both the baby’s position and size for a
feasible childbirth. For example, a head diameter greater than 11 cm means
normal 10 cm dilation will be insufficient for delivery.
22.4.2 Breast contact
Babies need breast contact even if there is not milk production.
Babies need to eat until they are full, so do not think your baby is over
eating. Breast milk can be stored at room temperature 10 hours, refrigerated
5-7 days, or frozen a year.
To wake or not to wake new-born at night for feedings
Should I wake my newborn for feedings?
from Elizabeth LaFleur, R.N.
Newborns often lose weight in the first few days after birth. Until your
newborn regains this "lost" weight — usually within 10 days to two weeks
after birth — it's important to feed him or her at least every three hours
round-the-clock. This may mean occasionally waking your newborn for a feeding,
especially if your newborn has lost more than 10 percent of his or her birth
weight. Once your newborn reaches the birth-weight milestone, it's generally OK
to wait for feedings until he or she wakes up.
Keep in mind that premature babies often need more-frequent feedings for a
longer period of time than do full-term babies. If you're concerned about your
baby's feeding patterns or weight gain, consult his or her doctor.
Insomnia causes babys to become fussy. Insomnia as well as post-partum
depression can be caused by a deficiency of Vitamin B5 in a lactating
mother’s diet. Supplement with 12 mg. of pantothenic acid per day and
watch both your baby and yourself get a better rest.
22.4.5 Swaddling Technique
Fold top down and place baby in the center using square or rectangle
swaddle - demonstration uses rectangle
Fold top from center (not corner) over
tuck under arm
Hold with fingers and with other arm pull
corner while holding blanket under arm Slip hand out and pull corner across body
Tuck behind back as far as possible while turning baby Roll baby back to
front and pull bottom corner between legs. For a 10 week old baby and under,
include feet and bring bottom corner under chin
Fold top from center (not
corner) over other shoulder and tuck under arm
Slip hand out again while
pulling blanket firmly across upper body to the back
Hold loose end
against back as you lift baby to
place in crib Front view
Children are G-d’s messengers. The books they pull off of shelves
will contain a message that one needs to relearn. That which they empty from
draws are items one needs to rediscover. All their actions until the age of
thirteen are the angelic messages of G-d.
Moshe Rabbeinu Contemplates Our Generation
As he looked into the Book of Adam, Moshe Rabbeinu was shown the Sages
and the leaders of all the generations of the future. When he thus gazed ahead
at the generation that would live to witness the footsteps of Mashiach, he saw
that they would have but a modest conception of Divinity, and in serving G-d
with their minds and their hearts they would not attain the loftiest peaks of
avodah. Rather, they would actively observe the Torah and its commandments in a
spirit of self-sacrifice. At the same time, he was shown what joy this service
would bring about in the heavens Above. In the light of what his eyes then
beheld, Moshe Rabbeinu
became exceedingly humble; as it is written,
אשר על פני
— “The man Moshe was very humble, more so than any man on
the face of the earth."
5710 , p. 237
From here we learn the importance of
serving others, for to help others is service to G-d. My car stalled across
from a house on 8th
E and 13th
S. I was there for about a
half an hour when the owner came out and asked if there was some help he could
offer. He brought a gallon of gas he had in the back and my car started
instantly. He would not take any money, but only a hand shake. Each day you
wake up, you should look for someone to
The happiness of the children is the happiness of the
Of course, no
parent wants his or her child to hide a problem. Parents are there to help
which is what they want to do.
220.127.116.11 Development experts say children
suffer due to lack of unstructured fun
Tuesday, October 01, 2002
By Karen MacPherson, Post-Gazette Staff
WASHINGTON -- American children don't really play much
That's the somber assessment of a growing number of child
development experts who are alarmed by the lack of time and interest devoted to
unstructured child's play in modern American culture.
"It's such a
tragedy," said Jane Healy, a Colorado-based psychologist, educator and author of
"Endangered Minds: Why Our Children Don't Think and What We Can Do About
"Adults have really lost touch with the basic needs of the child.
It's parenting as product development," she said. "Everything about children's
lives these days seems to be so serious, and play looks like it's not valuable
"But most of the very highly creative and successful people in
the long run are adults who can still adopt a playful attitude toward ideas. I
just don't think parents -- or even policy-makers -- understand that children's
spontaneous, self-generated play has tremendous potential to actually enhance
brain development and increase kids' intelligence and academic
Healy and others cite numerous examples of unstructured play --
initiated by children and powered by their creativity -- being
Instead of pumping their legs to send a swing soaring
toward the sky, millions of children spend afternoons sitting passively in front
of a screen watching TV or playing a video or computer game created by someone
Instead of using their imaginations to build something from
a set of wooden blocks, children are pushing buttons to activate an electronic
toy programmed by an adult.
Instead of working off stress by
running around the playground with their friends midway through the school day,
millions of children are confined to classrooms by policies that have cut or
eliminated recess to expand prep time for standardized
Instead of kicking around a ball just for fun, young
children -- some only 2 years old -- are signed up for weekly lessons in soccer,
tennis and other sports.
Studies by the University of Michigan's
Survey Research Center highlight this trend. Since the late 1970s, children have
lost 12 hours per week in free time, including a 25 percent drop in play and a
50 percent drop in unstructured outdoor activities.
Meanwhile, time in
structured sports has doubled.
In addition, the amount of homework
increased dramatically between 1981 and 1997. For example, the amount given to
6- to 8-year-olds tripled during that time, according to the center.
child development experts believe that some structured activities, such as dance
lessons or sports, can enhance children's development and learning. And many
also believe there can be a limited place for television, computers and even
But these same experts are concerned that growing
numbers of parents believe unstructured play is just a waste of time, despite
decades of research showing that it is a crucial foundation for developing
creativity, intellect and emotional and social skills.
"Part of the
response [to that research] has been, 'OK, let's devote all this time in the
early years to learning,' " said Alan Simpson, spokesman for the National
Association for the Education of Young Children. "But that's an
oversimplification. For young children particularly, play is a crucial part of
how they learn."
Joan Almon, an educator and the national coordinator for
the Alliance for Childhood, said she was upset recently by the blank look a
class of kindergartners gave her when she asked them to pretend they were
"So, I told them how I used to pretend I was Wonder Woman
and imagined I was flying. And one child said, 'I don't know how to do that.'
Unstructured play -- especially unstructured physical play -- is just
as important for older children, Almon and others say. But it's disappearing
from their lives, too.
For one thing, homework has been ramped up for
many students as part of the effort to boost standardized test scores.
addition, many children attend child care centers after school. While the best
centers offer opportunities for spontaneous play, others force children into
structured activities designed to keep them busy and quiet.
who go home after school aren't necessarily using their time in creative play.
One recent study by the Kaiser Family Foundation showed that a typical American
student spends more than 30 hours a week sitting in front of a computer,
television or video game, or listening to music.
Other children have
fully booked schedules of organized activities, including sports, choir practice
or dance lessons. These activities can be a wonderful way to learn a new skill
and make new friends.
But they also can squeeze out time for unstructured
play, experts note. In addition, they say, many parents see these activities as
ammunition for college applications and push their children too hard to excel in
Playtime also is being diminished during school hours. The
increased emphasis on standardized testing has meant the reduction or
elimination of recess in an estimated 40 percent of U.S. elementary schools,
according to the American Association for the Child's Right To Play, a
29-year-old group that helps parents lobby for school recess. In some school
districts, such as Atlanta, schools are even being built without
Experts say that's the wrong thing to do, both in terms of
child development and stemming the epidemic of childhood
"Children need to be able to take a break, just like adults,"
said Jon Hull, a policy analyst with the Council of State Governments, a
nonprofit organization that has studied the school recess issue in Southern
states. "Recess provides kids with an opportunity to talk with friends, play
with a ball or just play on their own."
The increased emphasis on
academics over play has reached even toddlers. One recent manifestation is the
Bush administration's proposal to add more academics and structured learning to
the federally funded Head Start program for low-income preschoolers.
idea is to ensure that "young children enter school ready to learn to read ...
thereby preventing many later reading difficulties," Susan Neuman, assistant
U.S. Education Secretary for Elementary and Secondary Education, told Congress
earlier this year.
Many education experts adamantly argue that early
structured learning can help these youngsters combat their economic and social
But others counter that the Bush proposals leave little
room for the kind of unstructured, playful exploration from which children learn
"I think many families are much too focused on trying to teach
children concrete memory-based things, like their letters or numbers," said
Stanley Greenspan, child development expert and author of "Playground Politics"
and "The Secure Child."
"Those things are important, but memorizing
doesn't teach you to think. Play -- what we call 'floortime,' which is getting
on the floor and being imaginative with your children -- that is what teaches
your child to be creative. It teaches them to think."
18.104.22.168 Creative play makes better
Wednesday, October 02, 2002
By Karen MacPherson, Post-Gazette
WASHINGTON -- Think back to the happiest moments of your
childhood. Chances are they were times of carefree play and moments with little
to do besides think your own thoughts.
Remember sitting on the grass
watching ants scurry about; rounding up friends for a pick-up game of kickball;
curling up with a comic book; testing out a new paper airplane design?
adults, it may seem that these activities weren't particularly important. But
child development specialists say they were crucial in cultivating your
creativity and imagination, as well as expanding your intellectual, emotional
and social skills.
In other words, unstructured child's play -- the
kind with no rules, few gizmos and little or no adult direction -- packs a
powerful developmental wallop.
Jane Healy, a psychologist, educator
and author of "Failure to Connect: How Computers Affect Our Children's Minds and
What We Can Do About It," says too many parents and policy-makers just don't
understand the importance of play in children's development.
the multiplication tables and the alphabet are very important. But those skills
need to reside inside a mind that has been expanded by the imaginative and
joyous exploration of our environment and the possibility that it offers for
fun," Healy says.
Play can be hard to define because it takes many
shapes, from physical play to mental play to imaginative play.
most experts agree that it can be divided into two main categories:
child-initiated unstructured play and adult-led play.
do lots of adult-led play. This includes organized sports, physical education
classes and extracurricular activities where rules must be followed. Even the
most preferred playthings, such as computers, video games and other electronic
toys, are generally scripted by adults.
"I feel as if we are creating a
culture where we are giving children all the content that we think they need for
their imagination, without realizing that in the process we are stifling their
imagination," said Joan Almon, an educator who heads the U.S. Alliance for
With such a lack of child-initiated play, "we are
short-circuiting a lot of their development," Healy adds. "That's because play
is the way that children work out their emotional issues, their fears, their
anxieties. It's the way they develop a self, a way they develop a sense that
they are important people who have ideas to share and who can get along with
There is, obviously, a role for parents, teachers and
other adults in most child-initiated play. Adults must ensure children's safety.
And they can provide materials or introduce new play opportunities, such as
taking a child to a playground or helping a child meet other
But many well-meaning parents believe they must be "program
directors for their children's intellectual development," Healy
Children, of course, have been playing for centuries. It was the
20th-century work of Jean Piaget that underlined the importance of play in
children's development. Seymour Papert, the Massachusetts Institute of
Technology professor who created the LOGO computer language, writes that Piaget
showed us "children are not empty vessels to be filled with knowledge but active
builders of knowledge -- little scientists who are constantly creating and
testing their own theories of the world."
Diane Levin, the Wheelock
College professor and author of "Remote Control Childhood? Combating the Hazards
of Media Culture," gives an example of Piaget's theory. She describes watching a
kindergartner named Tanaka carefully draw lines of various colors to create
boxes of different sizes and shapes on pieces of scrap
Inadvertently, Levin said, Tanaka dropped paint into the middle of
one box. Dismayed, she stared at the drip for a minute. Then she smiled and
began making dot patterns in her other boxes.
Levin notes that Tanaka
began her playtime with something she found interesting -- painting. As she
painted, Tanaka tried out new colors and different sizes of boxes. Suddenly, she
was presented with an unexpected challenge: a paint drip in the middle of a
carefully wrought painting. Tanaka had to figure out what to do and gained a
sense of "mastery" by solving the problem.
"We might even conjecture,"
Levin said, "that she would probably not have become as skillful at the tasks
and concept she is working on without this rich play process."
creative play vividly contrasts with what experts call the "imitative" play of
so many children these days. Levin describes watching a 4-year-old boy grab a
toy knife and stick it repeatedly into an action figure from a violent
children's television show, shouting, "You're dead, you're dead."
using his toys and props in limited and repetitive ways that seem to be
determined by how the toys look," Levin said.
She and other child
development specialists are disturbed by the dramatic increase in this kind of
play in the past 20 years. A main culprit, they argue, is the type of toys
children play with.
More and more toys are "licensed," meaning they are
based on television shows, movies and sometimes books.
"open-ended" toys, such as clay and blocks that can be used in numerous ways,
media-based toys are generally single-purpose playthings.
children how to play and can channel them into playing particular themes in
particular ways -- merely using the toys to try to imitate what they see on the
TV and movie screen," Levin says. "As a result, their imagination, creativity
and ability to find interesting problems to explore and solve -- the very
foundation that contributes to children's success in school -- can all be
Since the deregulation of children's television in 1984,
there has been an explosion of licensed toys. At least half of all new toys this
year are licensed, and experts predict that the number will continue to
"To the extent children's toy shelves become dominated by
these highly structured toys, their play and learning can suffer," Levin
argues. "Still worse, because many of the most popular shows linked to toys have
violent themes, what children often are channeled into imitating is
Levin and others worry about the long-term consequences of
such play. But they also remain optimistic that the situation can be
"While it is unfortunate that in today's world of increased time
constraints, parents and teachers need to take a more active and deliberate role
in ensuring that children's play meets their needs, in the long run their
efforts will pay off," Levin says.
"Children will demonstrate increased
levels of independence, resourcefulness and competence as a result of creative
Rhonda Clements, a Hofstra University professor and head of the
American Association for the Child's Right to Play, adds that no one knows
exactly what academic or life skills are going to be necessary 20 years down the
"But one thing we can bet on is that we will still need people who
can solve problems, which is one benefit of play. The people who brought us the
technology of today were obviously wonderful players," Clements
22.214.171.124 Experts call unstructured play
essential to children's growth
Thursday, October 03, 2002
By Karen MacPherson, Post-Gazette
WASHINGTON -- Parents, do you want to increase your
children's academic potential, social skills and creativity? Let them experience
That's the advice of child development specialists who want to
see American children spend more time in unstructured play and less time in
structured activities or zoned out in front of an electronic
Giving your children a break from organized activities and
electronic baby-sitters could very well mean sentencing them to boredom, at
least at first.
But experts say that when deprived of anything else to
do, children will find a way to amuse themselves -- even if it means simply
And that's exactly the point: letting children use their own
creativity to fill some of their time. In the process, they will be giving a
workout to their mental, emotional and social skills.
about kids' boredom, so they schedule their lives to keep them busy," says Alvin
Rosenfeld, a child psychiatrist who is co-author, with Nicole Wise, of "The
"But empty hours teach children how to create
their own happiness."
Richard Louv, senior editor of the Washington,
D.C.-based group Connect for Kids, adds that "children need adults in their
lives who understand the relationship between boredom and creativity -- and are
willing to set the stage so that kids can create the play."
help children get the most out of unstructured play by ensuring their safety and
keeping the electronic screens turned off. Parents also might provide materials
(paints, clay, etc.) and even gentle suggestions, if necessary. A good new
source of ideas is the book "Family Fun Boredom Busters," edited by Deanna Cook.
Other books can easily be found in a local library.
Parents need to
remember, however, that their role isn't one of camp
"Constructively bored kids eventually turn to a book, or build
a fort, or pull out the paints ... and create, or come home sweaty from a game
of neighborhood basketball. But kids need the guidance of parents or other
adults if their boredom is to be constructive, and lead to creativity," Louv
Sharna Olfman, an associate professor of psychology at Point Park
College, cautions parents to expect children to be balky at first. There may be
increased bickering among siblings and lots of whining.
"It would be
easier just to give in and throw a video on," Olfman says. "But it's really so
much better to let your child be bored. Amazingly enough, they will eventually
think of something to do."
Katrina Kenison, author of "Mitten Strings for
God: Reflections for Mothers In a Hurry," notes that most of today's adults
learned the benefits of boredom as children.
"Left to our own amusements,
we found resources that we didn't know we had. ... These were valuable lessons
-- and I fear that our own busy, well-entertained children may not ever have the
chance to learn them. Inventiveness and self-reliance are being scheduled right
out of them."
Child development experts acknowledge that finding time for
unstructured play isn't easy. It's particularly difficult for single parents and
for families who live in rough neighborhoods where playing outside isn't an
But the benefits of unstructured play are so great that experts
urge parents to try to find an hour a week for it. And they offer these tips to
make getting started easier:
This is the most important recommendation,
most experts say. And they admit that it's probably the most difficult, both for
the children who will pout and for their parents who use TV to give themselves a
Because studies have shown that children watch television an
average of 38 hours per week, cutting back can free a good-sized chunk of time
for unstructured play. There's another benefit, says James Steyer, a Stanford
University law professor and author of "The Other Parent: The Inside Story of
the Media's Effect on Our Children."
"If another adult spent five or six
hours a day with your kids, regularly exposing them to sex, violence and
rampantly commercial values, you would probably forbid that person to have
further contact with them," Steyer says. "Yet most of us passively allow the
media to expose our kids routinely to these same behaviors ... and do virtually
nothing about it."
Most children spend hours each day at computers,
playing with hand-held game devices or watching videos in the
Families can set a daily limit that allows time for your child to be
unplugged and left to his or her own devices.
play time doesn't require a big investment in new toys. Some basic art supplies,
library books and objects collected from nature (acorns, etc.) can keep kids
busy for quite some time.
"A 3-year-old is just as happy with a packing
box as with the computer" that came in it," contends Jane Healy, a
Colorado-based child development expert and author of "Endangered Minds: Why
Children Don't Think and What We Can Do About It."
Stanley Greenspan, a
child psychologist, urges parents to remember one key fact: "The value of a toy
is proportional to the degree that it invites imagination and
Joan Almon, coordinator for the U.S. Alliance for Childhood,
tells the story of two girls who were comparing notes about their dolls. One
girl had an electronically enhanced doll and boasted: "My doll can say 500
words!" The other girl was holding an old-fashioned cloth doll and countered:
"My doll can say anything I want her to say."
dot.gif As much as
possible, send your children outside to play.
Playing outside promotes
more running around, which helps your child sleep better at night and helps
battle the obesity epidemic among America's youngsters.
advise parents to ensure recess during school time. Like adults, kids need a
break from their work. Yet many schools have cut or eliminated recess to
increase instructional time and preparation for standardized tests.
study done on fourth-graders a few years ago found that if you compare children
who have had recess and those who have not had recess at the same time of day,
the children who didn't have recess were more fidgety and less on task," said
Olga Jarrett, a University of Georgia early childhood education professor who
has researched the recess issue.
"I suspect that a lot of what we are
seeing in terms of hyperactivity in kids may be related to the inappropriateness
of the school day for children's physical needs. When you look at a school day
with no breaks, you have to wonder how an adult would function in the same
"This can show children that adults value their play," Levin
It's not necessary to join in, although that's possible, too, as
long as parents don't try to take over. In fact, one highly successful parenting
strategy involves spending time each day with your child doing whatever he or
she chooses to do.
During this "special time," the child makes the
decisions, controls the flow of the play and assigns all roles. It's
unstructured play time for your child, yet you get to
Designating some special time with your child forces parents
"to slow down, to alter the rhythm of our daily lives in order to make time for
each other," Kenison writes in "Mitten Strings for God."
"Given our other
obligations and the length of our to-do lists, it is all too easy to forget the
good stuff -- namely, how much we actually like our own kids as people, how much
we enjoy their company, and how important it is for us to have fun
One should always shower ones children with love and hugs. This assists in
the development of their self-esteem. Bedwetting is a problem that stems from
lack of positive complements to the child. Each night when putting the child to
sleep one should complement and state how one believes in them and their
potential. Overlook mistakes and give encouragement.
One must spend time
with ones child. If the child feels that she is the most important thing to the
parents, then she will grow up close to her parents’ values. If a child
is asking or behaving in a way completely out of the ordinary it is usually a
cry that the parents notice them and give them attention.
A teenage child
may rebel and be testy. One must encourage her with complements. This gives
her confidence to be successful in all challenges. When the child comes from
divorced parents one should accept the child’s discussion of both sides so
that the child feels right about her parents.
We must know that the
illumination of our children stems from the blessings we recite that draw forth
Likutey Moharan #14:4
This is what our Sages teach (Nedarim 81a): “Why do
Torah scholars not have sons who are Torah scholars? Because they [the fathers]
did not first recite the blessing over the Torah.”25 Every
person, and especially the Torah scholar, must bless and illuminate, through his
Torah study, into the root of the souls—namely, the
thought.” For that is where our source is.26
Therefore when a person brings a radiance and blessing into the first/beginning
of thought, and through
this the souls shine and are blessed, then when he draws down a soul for his
son, he certainly draws a pure and clear soul. Thus his son will also be a
However, when he does not radiate and bless the first/beginning through his
study of Torah, then, when he draws a soul for his son, this soul has the
quality of “I am asleep” (Song of Songs
5:2).28 It does not shine. This is why his son will not be a
Torah scholar. And this is the meaning of, “Because they did not first
recite the blessing over the Torah;” [“first”] alluding to the
source of the souls and corresponding to “Israel arose first in
25. did not first recite the blessing.... The Talmud (ad.
Loc.) asks: How can it be that a Torah scholar’s son not develop into a
scholar? It answers: This happens because, before studying, the Torah scholar
himself did not first recite the daily Torah blessings, thanking God for the
Torah. The commentaries explain that they studied Torah as a wisdom, not as the
word of God through which man can come closer to Him and know His ways.
26. first in thought...source is. Rebbe Nachman explains the
above Talmudic passage this way: The scholars did not bless “the
first,” they did not look to awaken the beginning of the Torah—its
source in Divine thought. They failed to illuminate the source so that it did
not shine brightly from the start. Thus, the first/the beginning was not
proper. As a result, their children do not become scholars. Because they did
not awaken the source from where the soul of their offspring was drawn, it came
down darkened, unlit and thus unable on their own to radiate in Torah.
The Mai HaNachal adds that reciting the blessings over the Torah, that is,
thanking God for the Torah and praising Him for it, affords one’s Torah
study this very power to bless and illuminate its beginning, its source. It is
therefore interesting to note that the Shulchan Aruch (Orach Chaim 47:1) states:
“One must be extremely vigilant in reciting the Torah Blessings.”
Such a stringent tone regarding the reciting of a blessing has no parallel
anywhere else in the Codes. Yet, with what Rebbe Nachman has just explained the
need to this vigilance is quite understandable.
We find in the Torah Blessings the words, “He has chosen us from all the
nations and given us His Torah...” The Mabuey HaNachal explains that this
alludes to faith in God and the Torah. We trust that God has chosen and
prepared our souls to be at the source—God’s thought, and we believe
that the Torah has the power to awaken our souls and direct us to repent. In
this sense, the Torah is unique. No wisdom, no matter how deeply it is studied,
has the power to inspire or connect to man’s upper soul. The Mabuey
HaNachal also mentions that this blessing and illuminating of the source through
one’s Torah study is in essence the concept of lishmah, the studying of
Torah for its own sake (cf. Lesson #12, nn. 5, 9).
27. his son...scholar. This is because he illuminated this
particular soul at its source.
Elsewhere, Rebbe Nachman explains this in greater detail. He mentions that
everything a person does influences and has a part in the
“beginning” and affects the source. Thus, for example, “when
a child is conceived, his conception is affected by the food previously eaten by
his parents. They must sanctify and bless this beginning, namely the things
that precede conception, such as eating.” Thus, a person who is careful
about everything he does in the “beginning” assures a radiant and
clear soul for his child. This is because he is careful that all the
“beginnings” were as proper and as pure as possible (Rabbi
Nachman’s Wisdom #132).
28. asleep. This is in contrast to the aroused and awakened
soul, mentioned above. By not blessing the first/the beginning, the soul drawn
into this world is asleep. It does not shine wand will have great difficulty
Bags are packed
Rabbi Meir Cohen’s wife had a store to support the household. Rabbi
Meir always told her to be meticulously honest in its operation. The weights
were checked each day and the prices were set fairly. Hence, the store was
rather popular; while not providing an excessive income. One day she was at
home and she noticed her husband packing a small suitcase. Trusting fully in
her husband she did not ask about the bag. The bag stayed close to the bed each
night and still, Rabbi Meir did not tell his wife about any planned trip and she
did not ask.
Finally, the holiday of Rosh Hashanah arrived and Rabbi Meir was making a
sermon in his shul. He spoke about how important it is to show absolute faith
and trust in Hashem. For example, he said that one must believe absolutely that
Hashem will redeem him just as he brought out the Israelites from Egypt in the
exodus to Israel. Moreover, one should believe that this can occur this very
day and live with that optimism. Hence, he said, “you may even prepare a
suitcase for the occasion.” Rabbi Meir’s wife now
After I told this story to my wife and baby, she asked me,
“where is your suitcase?”
Along with Others and Homeland
The sons of Bilhah were Dan and Naphtali and those of Zilpah were Asher and
Gad. Joseph got along with the children of the
Jerusalem is in
the territory of Benjamin. North of there is the territory of Ephraim and north
of Ephraim is Mannaseh’s land extending to the southern tip of the Sea of
the Galilee. North of Mannaseh is Issachar and Zebulin. Issachar dwelled in
tents studying Torah by the merit of Zebulin, who provided material support.
Dan’s portion is where Tel-Aviv is today along the central to northern
coastline. Asher’s is above that on the coastline.
“Moses, blessed each of the twelve tribes...to the tribe of
Zebulun, Moses said, ...”rejoice in your ‘going out’”.
To Issachar he said...” in thy tents”. Commentaries explain that the
people of Zebulun were merchants and the people of Issachar were Torah scholars.
Zebulun provided the monetary support for Issachar, allowing his tribe to study
Torah without financial worry, while Issachar learned Torah in Zebulun’s
honor and shared with them the rewards of their Torah learning. Each tribe had
very different responsibilities, life styles and needs.”
names are our spiritual roots. My cousin Avraham Ellenbogen lives in Beer
Sheva, much like Abraham Avinu who chose that place as his
Aryeh Lev served as gabai of his
shul, which meant he maintained the order of services, distributed aliyahs, gave
out prayer books, and assisted guests. He was a quiet man with a good heart.
His strength was calmness and a good temperament. He was not prone to anger.
My maternal grandmother was a charitable woman who sent care packages to
her relatives in Israel at the beginning of Israel’s statehood when there
were few supplies. When I visited Israel, I found that she is well remembered by
Sima Talmon of Kibbutz Maale HaHamisha. She was a dynamic lady who enjoyed
entertaining guests and socializing. Paternal Grandparents
grandmother was a righteous woman who would fast Monday and Thursday, while my
grandfather sought for hiding places during the Holocaust. She read
T’hillim and Tanach for hours each day. She was a pious woman with a
saintly heart. She died on Erev Rosh Hodesh before sunset on the last day of
I remember one particular story she would tell me emphatically from
Ezekiel. This was the story of the “Valley of Dry Bones”. G-d set
Ezekiel down in a valley and all around were bones. G-d asked Ezekiel,
“Can these bones yet live?” Ezekiel responded, “Oh G-d, only
thou knowest.” G-d said prophesy unto these bones that they should have
flesh upon them and spirit within them. Ezekiel prophesied and it happened. G-d
The Restoration of the House of Israel
Son of man, these bones are the whole house of Israel;
although, they say, our bones are dried,
and our hope is lost: we are
cut off; they will yet rise up and I will bring
them back into the
land of Israel.
My grandmother’s favorite saying was “Everything will work out
for the best.” Her favorite charity was the Rabbi Meir Baal Haness
Z”l center, the miracle worker, in Tiberias, Israel. My Grandmother
obtained the following teaching perhaps from a Rabbi and wrote it down for
22-7: Tikkun for Agnosticism
We cannot know for sure if G-d exists, but we have an innate
conviction that He does,
and that the teachings of the skeptics leads only
down a dark and lonely path.
My grandmother had two daughters. Hilda, the oldest lives in Germany.
Lunia, died in the Holocaust as a baby. There are tragedies in the Holocaust
too painful to recount. Like the moon which waxes and wanes, Lunia’s life
waned too fast. What are the meanings of these tragedies? What does G-d want
us to learn? Great Uncle
My great uncle Joseph and his family
were murdered in the
grandmother’s brother was very kind and caring for the needs of those
around him. He was a good family man. He lived in Germany and had two
children. When Hitler rose to power he had the choice of leaving to Poland or
another country like Switzerland. Since he had two sisters in Poland, he chose
Poland, while his wife’s parents went to Switzerland and survived.
Meditation 22-1: Nuriel, Vowel Ascents, Tiferet Souls, the
Pomegranate of Eden, and the Smile
Ira led the meditation at Beth
We started with
Michael on the right, Gavriel on the left, Uriel in front, and Raphael behind.
I had an experience of Nuriel descending directly upon me. I experienced
tremendous power without emotion; the total balance of the Angel. The power was
overwhelming and I opened my eyes to look at the candlelight. The light
(NaRiel) of the candles balanced the Angel’s energy within me and He
ascended. The angels at my sides parted their hands and I inserted my own
between them and we rose.
Around me the world of Malchuts was blue with the glistening of gem stone
lights along cave walls. Above me the deep blue sky was parting and we passed
through into the orange landscape of Yesod. The intrusion of the light of a
living soul attracted the angels around. I then pronounced the name
with the vowel
’ and ascended to
Tiferets. There I stood in the
and saw the bright
light of a soul before me. I inquired who he was and he responded,
“Look into my soul and you shall know
” He wore a continuous smile on his face and I saw that he was my
great uncle Joseph, Z”l whose name I bear. He asked me if I would like
him to show me around? I asked to see the Tree of Knowledge. It stood by the
Tree of Life but was smaller. I asked what is the fruit it bears? He said look
and you will know. I saw a red fruit. It was a pomegranate. I asked, why is
the pomegranate the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge?
He said, each seed is like a fruit in its own right
and this reflects all of creation. There are worlds within worlds.
asked, what is the secret of peace and happiness? He took me up to the world of
Daat and I saw the parting of Abba and
I entered the space
between them. The space of Daat is not a world, but the revelation of
knowledge. I saw the answer was in his smile. To always wear a smile is to
give contentment to others and thus oneself
. I asked, what is the secret of
how to wear a smile? He said one must let negative energy leave the body.
Negative energy can leave via the eyes. One’s eyes can also bless
Table 22-1: Father’s Family Tree
Moshe (Max) d.10th Tevet
Hilda (Hanah) + Joseph
Jacob (Benyo) + Elenor
Sarah (Sala Lachs, Sara
Adar I, Psalm 34
Abraham (Sarah’s brother)
Abraham Tzvi (Hirsch -
Adar I – March 1st
2010, favorite Psalm
Yosef Natan (Jeffrey Nathan + Suhi -
Moshe Aryeh Lieb (Moshe Louis) –
Joseph (Sarah’s brother)
Jacob Ovadiah (Steven Jay + Rachel)
Max Leib – named after Max Spiegel.
Ari Joseph – named after
Lunia – died in the Holocaust
Some taught me that the Hebrew alphabet is the Torah. He taught me how
beautiful it is to kiss the mezuzah when walking by. Finally he restored my
faith in the
Table 22-2: Mother’s Family Tree
Louis Abraham –
d.23.Aug.70 – d.21st.Av
Aryeh Lev is his Hebrew name on a
JNF honorary plaque.
Ruth – 1940
Took care of Davie and his
Jeffrey – born @ 8:35 PM
1st of Adar II, 5722 Tuesday
Yom Reveee (4th day of the week), Rosh
Jeff (Yosef Natan)
Minnie (Mindel -
Lobel b.25.Sept.1903 d.26.Sept.70
Harry Lobel (was a jolly, good funny man, but didn’t have
Jeff (Yosef Natan)
Rosh Hodesh Adar 5764 – watched the ‘The Ideal
Husband’. This is a good movie about character under trying
circumstances, a Victorian society film combining themes from Nathaniel
Hawthorne with the flare of Shakespeare—highly recommended.
The Jewish mission is to enlighten the world with Torah. We must go
door-to-door to share our wisdom, to counter false beliefs, and to elevate
Jewish self-esteem. Both Jewish men and Jewish women should serve a mission.
We need to establish Jewish Institutes of Learning so that singles will have
places to meet and marry. These should be collocated with colleges and
universities. Jewish singles should have their own places of worship to
facilitate meetings. Jewish single synagogues should have non-paid
I asked Moshe, “What do all these women want who are dressed fancy,
but prone to emotional screaming and uncontrolled actions.” Moshe said,
“They do not want stinky plans and an arguing stinky dada.”
Women want decorum and polite conduct even when they err. They want
their mistakes to be covered not resuscitated to them. They want their husbands
The angels in heaven are
beings similar in
relationship to G-d as animals are in relation to
Perkei Avot: “Who is honored”
Who is honored?
He who honors all living beings (Kal
The Midrash teaches that one must show honor for other living creatures
not just human beings. The word love, ahavah
in Hebrew is of the same
root as yahav
, the word for ‘give’ in Aramaic. This teaches
us to love is to give. The Gemara teaches us to give three prutah, small coins,
as tzedakah before prayer. That is to say, even the gift of three small coins
is as significant in G-d’s eyes as an act of love.
In order for
God to have created the world, he withdrew from the ‘center’ to make
because nothing can exist without God, a kav, a ray of light reentered the space
to sustain creation. Similarly, when people want to learn to love, they must
also withdraw from the center. They must grow out of the point of being
children in the center of attention to let the relationship occur.
creates the world with words, but rests on Shabbat. Yet, the world cannot exist
without Hashem continuously recreating it. During the week, this is with words,
but on Shabbat, G-d rests. From here, we learn that Hashem sustains the world
with thought on Shabbat. Unlike words, thought does not distort. Thought is
Hashem’s intended creation in perfect form, His Thought. This is why
Friday night is so special a time for intimacy. At this moment, we are closest
to Hashem’s intention.
Jewish love is to be in love with the idea
of marriage, not necessarily with one’s spouse. The idea of marriage
perseveres, even when the newness of love wears off. In love, there is unity,
one body. This means that when the other’s body is ailing one feels for
the suffering and vice-versa. To be in love with the idea of marriage means to
give and fulfill commandments.
The Ayn Aur, an infinite light surrounds
all of creation. Angels reside in this place; this is the world of Yetzirah.
Why do we bid the angels ‘goodbye’ so soon after we greet them on
Shabbat? This is because when they arrive at the Shabbat observant house, the
heat of the spirit of observance so overwhelms them that they cannot bear to
stay in its presence.
Yet, we know that they dwell in heaven so what could be more overwhelming here
on Earth. The unity of God’s presence with his people overwhelms the
experience of the angels in heaven. Why is there no blessing before intimacy?
There is a blessing that one recites as part of the marriage ceremony
sanctifying intimacy and progeny from the relationship. Yet, when one says a
blessing, one must act upon it immediately for it to last. This teaches that
all of the marriage between husband and wife is intimacy, not just the sexual
act that is separated by spates of time. Intimacy is not just
22-9: 6 things women love about
By Laura Gilbert (match.com)
Guys, have you ever worried you don’t have that elusive something
that women crave? Perhaps you think you lack a devil-may-care attitude that the
ladies love, or that you don’t have a Jon Stewart-esque wit that would win
someone’s heart. Relax! We spoke to relationship experts and women across
the country and learned that those attributes men believe are impressive just
don’t cut it. In fact, the qualities that attract women may surprise
you... and, chances are, you possess at least one of them. Learn how to embrace
these six traits for dating success.
1. She loves that you’re a man of few words
It’s no secret that women love to communicate with the men in
their lives. “Women like to connect, and when that happens, they will
melt,” says Emerson E. Eggerichs, Ph.D., author of Love and Respect: The
Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs. Of course, when most
men hear that, they cringe, thinking it means long, drawn-out talks about every
feeling either of you has ever had since you met. Wrong! According to Dr.
Eggerichs, women don’t need lots of verbiage from men. The truth is,
your lady can get the same communication from you via eye contact —
without a single word being uttered. Simply stand face-to-face with her, look
into her eyes, and show your affection with a simple physical gesture
— say, holding her arm or caressing her face. “It’s in their
very nature for women to want you to look at them,” Dr. Eggerichs
explains. “Infant girls make eye contact with adults who are around them,
while boys make eye contact but look away if there’s a mobile, ceiling fan
or anything else to distract them overhead.” Cultivate your connection
with a little unabashed eye contact, and you’ll be on the fast track to
winning her heart.
2. She loves your hairy body — really!
Wait, she likes your what?! That’s right, go ahead and cancel that
back-waxing appointment. A study at the Zoological Society of San Diego (of
people, not animals) revealed that women are more attracted to men with furry
bodies, regardless of the silhouette. Scientists theorize that body hair
advertises good health and active hormones, making it a positive sign in the
selection of a mate. For further proof, just listen to Laura McNeely of Spring,
TX: “I always love noticing that a guy, especially a clean-cut one, has a
little bit of chest hair sticking up out of his Oxford shirt. It’s like
saying, ‘I may have an uptight job, but there’s a caveman lurking
3. She loves your unnatural emotional attachment to your favorite sports
Most men learn by their teens to downplay their obsession with
professional sports in front of the ladies. But dating coach David Wygant says
that revealing certain elements of your big-league insanity to a woman will make
her feel more connected to you. “Men try to hide when our eyes get all wet
during the last 30 seconds of a game or when we see our fellow men get all
emotional on the sidelines, but after a long season, we need that emotional
release,” Wygant says. And the truth is, women would rather see you get
sappy over sports than never see you act mushy at all — it lets them know
there’s a sensitive guy underneath. And if you are prone to hugging your
friends after your team wins? You just added some bonus points!
4. She loves when you act tough
While women often want an evolved, emotionally available man these days,
putting a little “wild man” demeanor into your repertoire can equal
popularity on the dating scene. “Most women want bad-boy qualities so they
don’t have to act perfect all the time,” says Nancy Slotnick, author
of Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in 6 Months or Less. After all, if
a woman is afraid to be anything less than perfect in front of you, your
relationship will be stifled and you’ll both end up bored. Anne Giddens of
Wilmington, NC, adds: “A lot of guys are total gentlemen on dates, so
being with someone who mouths off a bit shows that he’ll protect me if
something happens. And that, in turn, makes me feel girlie and taken care of.
It’s a total turn-on.” Hint at your bad-boy side by being slightly
protective of your girl when someone else talks to her, suggesting thrill-type
dates — which can increase adrenaline production and promote physical
attraction — or simply planning a date without consulting her (spontaneity
in general is a good thing). Of course, don’t do anything that’s
actually disrespectful or dangerous — that’s not the kind of bad-boy
behavior anyone wants.
5. She loves your artistic side
You don’t need a massive paycheck to appeal to the ladies. They
actually find the “I’m working on a screenplay” lifestyle
alluring. One study found that artists and poets had experienced a total of 4-10
romantic partners, while people with less creative jobs had three. According to
the study’s author, Daniel Nettle, Ph.D., a psychology lecturer at
Newcastle University in the UK, creative people tend to be charismatic and their
artistic pursuits are particularly interesting to others. The study also found
that the number of romantic partners an artsy type had increased when he spent
more time on creative, right-brained pursuits. And you don’t have to be a
starving artist to appeal to women. Even if you’re an investment analyst,
you might play the saxophone on the side. So flaunt that hobby — women dig
guys with creativity.
6. She loves your geeky electronics obsession
Your wall of speaker cords. Your closet full of video games. Your
wireless universe. Believe it or not, the very things that women roll their eyes
about can also be the things that draw them in, too. “When a guy shows a
woman some new gadget, it shows his intelligence,” says Andrea Miller,
founder and CEO of YourTango.com, an online magazine about love, dating and sex.
“It’s also always attractive when someone has a passion.” May
Beach from Pine Hill, NJ, agrees: “Sometimes when I see my boyfriend
working furiously at his laptop, it’s the most endearing thing,” she
admits. “It’s like the difference between knowing a guy speaks a
foreign language — ho-hum — and hearing him converse fluently in it
— hot!” So don’t be afraid to share your excitement about a
bit of computer hardware — just don’t expect her to stand in line
overnight with you, waiting with bated breath for it to hit the
Choosing a home is an important item for spiritual inspiration.
Particularly beneficial for meditation is a home that has windows facing east.
A view of mountains or water will help ones inspiration. Size is not as
significant in a home as pleasant scenery and a quiet location. Ever notice
that most temples (churches) are designed with steeples or spires. Within our
mental code, such images remind us of mountains where water, herbs, and wildlife
are found. Most importantly, such visages remind us of our insignificance and
deflate anger, worry, and self-indulgence.
Sometimes a person is an orphan and doesn’t know where he comes from.
In some ways, each of us needs to make a decision on our own identity, who we
Text 22-10: Duncan McCloud to Richie: Highlander “Family
You get to decide who you are, not many people get that
Sometimes a person becomes an orphan by forgetting where they
“The purpose of basic training is to discover the personality of your
22.13.1 Car seats for babies / toddlers
They are essential particularly in unpredictable traffic where they easily
save lives. Particularly important in the rare end collision.
22.13.2 Seat belts
Prevent the catapulting effect where an adult could go into the back seat
injuring a child.
• Recognize the hazards that the conditions could present.
Understand the defense when encountering a challenging roadway
• Act correctly, in time, to avoid a hazard, collision, or
22.13.4 Car Mirrors
Lean head to left window and adjust mirror until you just can’t see
the side of your car.
Lean to the right as far as you can and adjust mirror
until you just can’t see the side of your car.
22.13.5 What if?
Drive with the idea of what could go wrong at
any time to reduce taking risks. Visualize the
the risks of
22.13.6 Distracted driving
Cell phone usage – 4x collision risk
Eye off of road for 2 sec in
6 sec period – 2x collision risk
Conversations while driving reduce
scanning. Up to half of the environment is not recognized. The more intense
the conversation the less attention is paid to the environment.
about other subjects reduces awareness of driving.
Texting impairs driving
visually, mentally, and physically.
Table 22-3: Impairment driving risk
Dialing cell phone
Reaching for moving object
Looking at external objects
Age 20+ need minimum of 8 hours of sleep per night and 19- need minimum of
9 hours of sleep per night. 35% of people do not get this minimum! Impairment
is most at 2-4 PM when circadian rhythms seek a second sleep period.
22.13.8 Aggressive driving
Most often caused by a feeling of loss of control in some area of
one’s person’s life. “Don’t add insult to
Yesod in Tiferets on
the Counting of the Omer – April 24, 1996
As for a blessing
before sex, we are instructed not to recite blessings in vain and we do not know
ahead of time what will occur.